I don't know if this will help, but I think you just press the remote button once, but you have to hold it for about 2 seconds. I don't know if that's what you said, it was phrased weird. As for the charging, by brother installed a CD player in his car (not a civic) and with some charging cords it would say error but with others it would charge. Even with the cords that would work, it would stop playing music (he played music through the cord, music would stop at there would be a few beeps so he would know when the cord stopped working) so he would have to unplug it and plug it back in. I don't know if this will solve your problem, just a few experiences. Oh, I started a civic via remote start and it worked fine.